Sometimes, we inherit characteristics of our parents unconsciously. Unfortunately, there are a number of attitude that we want to abolish. On my case, it was the taboo of talking the vicinity of obscenity.
One day, when I was learning to play guitar, I played a song from Jamrud. I didn’t remember which song it was, but one thing for sure that Jamrud was well known for their sense of funny-obscene lyrics. I sang the song in front of my dad. Eventually, he forbade me to sing that song. No explanation.
On another occasion, my wife told me that our daughter sang to Jingle Bell song—which wasn’t our kind of religious song. At that time, perhaps she meant jokingly that we should prohibited our daughter to sing it. Sadly, I took it seriously so much so that I responded to her with saying: “don’t disallow her, don’t give her (too specific) religious value in that age”.
Now let’s jump to another day. My daughter once showed me a video that she was watching. Enthusiastically, she told me that there was a video showing Ipin and Upin (her favorite cartoon show) with an adult body—with a proper appearance. Hence, the audio was disturbing. It was a dangdut music with the lyrics about second wife. Even though she wouldn’t understands the meaning, we as adult will known what it tells about. So yeah, I turned it off, remove it from the timeline so that my daughter won’t find it anymore. Consequently, she cried.
Later after found out that she was upset because of me, I realize that I have done something wrong. I must not act as such—if I really want to change my father’s way to tell that something has not to be performed. If you face a quite the same situation, I suggest you to let them express their happy feelings. After the device abandoned, take it over. Set the video so that it won’t appear anymore when she open the apps back. Hope it helps you. []
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